Yeah. And I think that's pretty defensible. See, I think that is
one issue with this. Another, and this isn't an issue with this. And this speaks
more to the like, the tangible, okay, how should I treat my kid versus like,
what's the right mindset? I think, like, when it comes to mindset stuff, you
know, all these points are very good. But basically, I think one big purpose of
parenting is to help children make decisions that are in their long term best
interests which the child might not be able to foresee or appreciate in the
present, you know. And so like, when it comes down to a lot of the things of
like, you know, how much I restrict my child's movements and things like that.
You know, I imagine any most justifications for doing these things will be like,
well, it's in the child's long term best interests that they, you know, go to
this hockey lesson and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And yeah, I think that's
fair, but I think it's a double edged. I think there are a lot of like,
intellectual, intellectual is a wrong word. There are a lot of trap holes, you
can fall into where you feel like you actually have, you can actually evaluate,
well, what the long term benefit of things are. And so, you know, a lot of
parents might promote their kids into like going down, like the standard path of
like, you know, study this thing, and you know, go work at this kind of company,
because, you know, it'll give you like a stable job, that kind of stuff.
I think there's a danger where, you know, the parent might actually not be in a
good position to judge, you know? What's going to be a good economic move 30
years from now, stuff like that. And then I think there's also like, another
Trap Hole, that you can kind of fall into is kind of pandering to your own
comfort, like pandering to optics that make you feel good. And I think this
isn't. I haven't made a note about this in my rome. But I think this is an
example that, that she gives, which is that, you know, a lot of parents
restricts the movement of their daughters far more than they restrict the
movement of their sons. Especially like, you know, going out at night and things
And, you know, if you ask them, you know, why are you doing that? The first sort
like that.
of justification is going to be, well it's not safe, you know? Who knows what's
going to happen? All this kind of stuff. You know, the authors of the essay says
that, well, actually, if you look at the numbers, and you know, all these
dangers that you think they're all when your daughter goes out at night are far
more prevalent at school and the workplace, blah, blah, blah. So like, if you
think that's a real reason, then you're not really justified because then you
keep them basically locked up all the time. And then the parent might say, okay,
fine, that might be true, but you know, I just be more comfortable knowing that
she's not out there in the dark, whatever.
And the author says that this is like, this is not really justifiable, like your
personal comfort, you know, does not trump like, you know, another human beings
kind of liberty, basically. It comes back -- it's based, like an optics thing.
The whole thing about like, peeing in the sink. Again, it's like a personal
comfort thing of like, oh, that looks icky, or whatever. It's the same thing or,
you know, looks kind of it feels kind of weird, if my daughter's like, out alone
at night or something.
And, yeah, so I think that this sort of pandering to your own comfort and your
own sort of weird optics is another potential trap door, that might make you
make bad decisions when you are deciding, like, tangibly what restrictions do I
impose on my child. So that was, yeah, that was great stuff, man. And I think,
yeah, I think when having these conversations with people, I think I really need
to stress the sort of mindset versus, you know, actual practice thing. Because
like, yeah, even after I told you that the thoughts that were still going
through your head you felt like it was an actual practice stuff. So I think
that's gonna be really important when, when trying to recruit people for this
cause.
So that was one thing. So I'm very early on this journey, if any more listeners
have really very interesting recommendations, please send them my way. This is
great stuff. This is like my favorite thing right now. And just, you know, while
we're on the topic. A couple of months ago, I listened to a good podcast
episode. Are you kidding me? I didn't make notes about that. Well, looks like
I'm gonna make notes.
