But okay yeah, look, there's a couple of final points I'd like to
address before we round things off. But that was just me apologizing in advance
for this not being you know, any fault with these, with these explanations is on
me, not on the framework. Okay, so, games are a very significant part of life,
you know, they're kind of passed down from generation to generation. And you
know, to an extent, this seems to be a tendency to kind of become friends with
and breed with people who play similar games as we do, you know, and so games
would like this very historically significant thing.
And Harris thinks, or rather, Eric Berne thinks that raising children is
primarily a matter of teaching them what games to play, and how to play them. In
different cultures and different social classes there are different types of
games, and various tribes and families have their own variations of these games.
And so like, yeah, you might find that you and your friends tend to play certain
kinds of games, whereas other groups of friends play different kinds of games.
And like the people that you find yourself kind of clicking with or whatever,
are the people who engage with your games, in a way that's a in the way that you
like, versus like, the people who you feel like, oh, they didn't really get me
or I don't really get them. It might be because they play different games or you
play games in a different way.
And so we talked a bit about pastimes as being this, like, you know, new sort of
neutral thing, you know, a way to pass the time. And then we talked about games
as kind of being this sort of bad thing. And the thing is that like, pastimes is
kind of like, they kind of get boring as you as you sort of repeat them, you
know? It's like, it's like cocktail party kind of stuff, that's kind of what a
pastime is. Where you're not like truly connecting with the other person, okay?
And so the goal is sort of the ultimate kind of interaction, you remember I
said, there's like seven ways that people interact, games and pastimes and two
of those intimacy is like, the goal. And intimacy is like the true, you know,
sincere, deep human connection kind of thing. And intimacy is what we're trying
to, what we should be trying to sort of get to, with the people around us.
Intimacy is hard, because like, I don't know, it's kind of scary to yeah, it's
the usual stuff around like being vulnerable, kind of keeping it real, being
authentic, all of that kind of stuff. And that's why intimacy is hard. And like,
you know, society often frowns upon, you know, people being candid or something
or, you know, going off script and not engaging in these structured ways. And so
yeah, to get past like the boredom of playing a pastime, and to get past the
difficulty of actually having intimacy with someone, most people end up playing
games to fill the major part of their social interactions.
So games are like these very socially significant things. But intimacy is the
true goal. And there's no like good definition of intimacy that I can give here.
I'll read a little passage from the book, "The somber picture presented in parts
one and two of this book in which human life is mainly a process of filling in
time until the arrival of death."
